My husband always takes his familys side. What to Do When Your Husband Sides With His Mother

I have been married for 3 years now. My husband is totally a mama's boy. He doesn't give any priority to me and my family. He never understands my feelings and does whatever his mother tells him to do. What should I do?

Mine left me at Walmart without telling me he was going home… we had both come in separate cars… nothing… just walked out of the store and left me there. Do you ever feel like your husband pushes your viewpoint to the side so that he can advance his own? So, he continued to blame his family. You'll get much better results in the long term if you find a way to get your in-laws on your side. Don't have anymore children until you live in a separate home from your in laws. I posted my comment because my husband gets over anything that is said about his family.

What to Do When Your Husband Sides With His Mother

I love her very much and don't want her to go away. You are the only one who understood what I was trying to say. A reader, anonymous, writes 3 February 2012 : This is verified as being by the original poster of the question Actually she is verbally abusive to me which is why I don't like her. To make a long story short, he actually admitted that he does know that I don't say anything that is actually bad about his family and that he has been getting upset lately because he is embarassed or angry with some of them about how they can be. For the first time in our marriage, we argued constantly.

How Husband Feels When Wife Puts Children Ahead of Him

I have poured my heart out to this man of how much I am alone and stressed. If the issues with his family are creating problems within your household I do believe that you should stand firm. Im emotionally drained i just dont know what to do anymore. Eventually, I insisted that we see a counselor. First, try to nip in the bud any discussion about your relationship that could lead to contention.

What to Do When Your Husband Sides With His Mother

I have never met a husband and wife that saw eye to eye on all issues. Conflict in this area can exasperate other marital difficulties. He would go to the bar right after work without saying anything to me. My in-laws, whom I got along with great from a distance, began to smother us with constant advice on everything from our parenting choices to our finances. It really sounds like she is trying to preserve a relationship with her grand daughter. However, once you marry someone your spouse is your partner, that is your best friend and you are building another family with your spouse. Yes I know it was nasty because the next morning she didn't hug me goodbye or walk me to the front door which she has done without fail since I met her.

What Do I Tell My Husband When He Says This?

I clearly said to them, I don't have to put up with it, and I wont be because I wasn't raised that way, I'm not a mat she can wipe her feet on whenever she feels like it. Over the years, I have learned a lot and maybe it will help you. My husband has never said a word to his mother throughout all of this abuse unless I go into a total meltdown from stress and even then he barely says a word to her. He just does not seem to get it at all. He was annoyed and I agreed with him. I felt it inappropriate to expect me to consent to a demand not invitation to bring my baby to a party under these circumstances.

My Husband Puts His Family Before Me. What Do I Do?

Things like a change in commute time changes how much free time you each have, who cooks dinner, who gets kids ready for bed, etc. That is the perfect opportunity to engage in compromise to make sure your mutual needs are met and some of each of your wants. Start being proactive and stop letting your husband have all the control in the matters of your emotional state. Or you could try telling them how you feel like I explained with your husband. In the meantime he helped a friend of his do some clean up.

My Husband Puts His Family Before Me. What Do I Do?

He was almost disgusted by me. This is a complex issue that requires tact and understanding, but non the less, one that you should be able to deal with together. If anyone could offer any advice or opinions would be greatly appreciated. I dont even know how to talk to him about it because he will dislike for sure. She was easy to bash, let me tell you but I tried hard to control my tongue because it made my husband feel bad. Again, you would not take this approach unless you have made multiple efforts to work out this problem with your spouse.

Family Feud and my husband is siding with his sister against me. What are my options?

Its very easy to say its up to you to rise above it, but ive been on the recieving end. What drives your man to behave in this fashion? Are you in any way making him more vulnerable to the attentions of other women? They didn't care that he didn't have any of his things with him, they just locked him out one night. Admires other women over her — She sees you looking. . Such as attending family events. And this is because none of them like confrontation or awkwardness so they'd prefer if I just didn't stick up for myself for the sake of everyone else being happy.

My husband is too attached to his family. So much that it interferes our daily life!

What if you were expected to always attend important events without your husband by your side, wouldn't you feel just a little bit embarrassed and upset. Hi Julie, how are you and your baby going? This will happen in all marriages and how you resolve your differences is an important part of this overall discussion. Maybe he missed the vows and should reread them a little bit. You have the right to ask him to do things for you. Anything I do, know or say is automatically assumed to be incorrect.